Being Diagnosed with Autism or ADHD as an Adult

For many adults, receiving a diagnosis of autism or ADHD can be an eye-opening, validating, and even life-changing experience. After years—sometimes decades—of feeling different, struggling with aspects of life that others seemed to navigate effortlessly, or masking your true selves to fit in, finally having an explanation can bring both relief and a flood of emotions. Seeking a diagnosis isn’t about labeling a deficit—it’s about discovering how your brain works with all its strengths and needs to help you thrive authentically.

A Journey of Self-Discovery

Many who receive a diagnosis of autism or ADHD as an adult describe a profound sense of recognition. Often, negative ableist beliefs and expectations have been internalized and shaped one's self-image, leading people to believe their challenges were personal failings. Instead of seeing their ways of thinking and processing the world as valid and part of the valuable natural variations in our communities, many spent decades struggling with self-doubt, burnout, or feeling out of sync with their surroundings.

For some, the realization comes through seeing neurodivergent experiences increasingly reflected in books, TV shows, or online communities. Others pursue assessment after a loved one such as a child is diagnosed and they begin to see similar traits in themselves. The moment of clarity—understanding that there has always been a reason for their experiences—can be deeply affirming. A diagnosis does not change who you are, but it offers a new, more accurate framework for understanding yourself.

Reframing the Past Through a Neurodiversity-Affirming Lens

A diagnosis doesn’t change the past, but it can reframe it in a way that fosters self-acceptance. Many people revisit childhood memories, relationships, career struggles, and social interactions with newfound understanding. Behaviors once labeled as "difficult," "over-sensitive", "disruptive," or "inappropriate" now make sense when viewed through the lens of neurodivergence.

This reevaluation can be bittersweet. There may be grief for the years spent without support, for the misunderstandings by family and friends, and for the lost opportunities that might have played out differently in a more accommodating world. But there is also a profound sense of empowerment—of recognizing one’s strengths, reclaiming one’s narrative, and embracing neurodivergence not as a flaw, but as an integral part of one’s identity.

Moving Forward with Self-Acceptance and Community

Receiving a diagnosis can be a turning point, offering access to support, resources, and a greater sense of self-acceptance. It also allows neurodivergent individuals to connect with a broader community—one that validates and uplifts diverse ways of thinking and experiencing the world.

The neurodiversity movement reminds us that autism and ADHD are not disorders to be "fixed" but natural variations of the human mind. Neurodivergent people bring creativity, hyperfocus, innovation, and deep empathy to the world. Our societies are stronger when we recognize and celebrate these differences rather than suppress them.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you might be neurodivergent, know that you are not alone. Understanding yourself is a powerful tool, and seeking diagnosis—if it feels right for you—can be a profound act of self-acceptance and empowerment.

At A New Hope Therapy Center, we offer assessments for autism and ADHD for adults both in-person and online across New Mexico. If you are seeking greater clarity and support, we are here to help.

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A self-described geek, Maria Laquerre-Diego is a CEO and Owner who is committed to increasing access to mental health services and breaking down the stigma surrounding therapy services. As a therapist turned CEO, Maria has developed a unique perspective when it comes to mental health and the barriers surrounding mental health treatment. Influenced by her time at New Mexico State University in the Family and Consumer Science department, and University of New Hampshire’s Marriage and Family Therapy department, Maria has turned her dedication to giving back and supporting future generations of therapists. In addition to supporting mental health providers, Maria takes an active role in addressing the continued stigma of mental health services through the use of pop culture – everything from movies and television shows to superheroes and Disney characters. Maria has spoken about mental health at several local events, has served as an officer on professional boards and has provided training to clinicians all over the country while maintaining her and her family’s roots as Aggies! Outside of the office, Maria can be found spending time with her family and loved ones, exploring the world through travel, and creating cosplays for herself, her husband and their two little ones. Maria is always happy to talk about Star Wars, Marvel and mental health and can be contacted through her practice website www.anewhopetc.org